nulla superbia, non contumeliosa cervix, non aliqua inobedientia: prorsus tanquam ancillae servite. Sed ubi ventum fuerit ad illud negotium, ubi vos beatus Apostolus aequavit, dicens, Uxori vir debitum reddat, similiter et uxor viro; subintulit, Uxor non habet potestatem corporis sui, sed vir. Quid te extollis? Audi quod sequitur: Similiter et vir non habet corporis sui potestatem, sed mulier (I Cor. VII, 3, 4). Ubi ad hoc ventum fuerit, clamate pro re vestra. Aurum tuum vendit maritus pro necessitate sua: ferto, femina; ferto, ancilla; noli litigare, noli contradicere. Contemptus auri tui, dilectio est viri tui. Si villam tuam pro necessitate sua vendat, quae est et tua (non enim potest esse ipsius, quae non sit tua, si est charitas in te, quae debet esse in uxore), ferto patienter; et si dubitat, tu offer: contemne omnia propter amorem viri tui. Sed castum opta, pro castitate litiga. Patienter pereat villa tua, non anima ipsius te patiente pereat.
no pride, no insolent neck, no disobedience of any kind: serve altogether as handmaids. But when it comes to that matter in which the blessed Apostle made you equal, saying, Let the husband render the debt to the wife, and likewise also the wife to the husband, he added, The wife does not have power over her own body, but the husband. Why do you exalt yourself? Hear what follows: Likewise also the husband does not have power over his own body, but the wife (1 Cor. 7:3–4). When it comes to this, cry out for your cause. Your husband sells your gold for his need: bear it, woman; bear it, handmaid; do not quarrel, do not contradict. Contempt for your gold is love for your husband. If he sells your estate for his need, which is also yours (for nothing can be his which is not yours, if there is in you the charity which ought to be in a wife), bear it patiently; and if he hesitates, offer it yourself: despise all things for love of your husband. But desire him chaste, contend for chastity. Let your estate perish while you bear it patiently; let not his soul perish while you look on patiently.
CAPUT V. — 5. Caput mulieris vir. Ducat hic in bonum, illa sequatur. Non dico viris, ut in hac causa zelent uxores suas. Scio quia faciunt, novi. Quis ferat uxorem adulteram? Et imperatur feminae ut ferat adulterum virum! O justitia! Quare, rogo te? quare? Quia ego sum vir. Vir es? in fortitudine tua probemus, quia vir es. Vir es? vince libidinem. Quomodo vir, quo uxor est fortior? Tu es caput mulieris, vir, verum est. Si caput est, ducat, uxor sequatur. Sed ubi recta est domus, caput mulieris vir. Si caput es, duc: sequatur illa caput suum. Sed vide quo eas. Noli ire quo non vis ut sequatur: noli ire quo times pedissequam, ne in foveam adulterii simul ruatis: ne cum tu facis, doceas quod facis. Dolet tibi anima, si in foveam adulterii ambo simul ruatis: doleat tibi, si tu solus ruas. Zelas, non vis ut ruat illa: time, tu noli ruere. Nolite autem, pudicissimae feminae, imitari impudicos viros vestros. Absit a vobis. Aut vobiscum vivant, aut soli pereant. Impudico marito non debet mulier pudicitiam, sed Deo illam debet, Christo illam debet. Non propter illum faciat, qui non meretur; sed propter Christum faciat. Pretium suum attendat, tabulas suas legat. Postremo quod libet sentiat, qui forte indignatur, quia talia disputo: nam scio, qui sapiunt, amant inde me; quia non sine causa scriptum est, Corripe sapientem, et amabit te; corripe insipientem, et adjiciet odisse te (Prov. IX, 8). Non dixit, Incipiet; sed, adjiciet: quia jam oderat. Ergo scio quia sapientes amant me in hoc. A communione se cohibeant, qui sciunt quia novi peccata ipsorum; ne de cancellis projiciantur. Quorum autem nescio, hos coram Deo convenio. Agant etiam ipsi poenitentiam, et deinceps ab immunditia abstineant fornicationum suarum.
Chapter V. — 5. The husband is the head of the woman. Let him lead into good, let her follow. I do not say to husbands that in this matter they should be jealous over their wives. I know that they are; I have learned it. Who would bear an adulterous wife? And the woman is commanded to bear an adulterous husband! O justice! Why, I ask you? why? Because I am a man. Are you a man? Let us test by your strength that you are a man. Are you a man? Conquer lust. How are you a man, when your wife is stronger than you? You are the head of the woman, husband; it is true. If he is the head, let him lead, let the wife follow. But where the house is rightly ordered, the husband is the head of the woman. If you are the head, lead: let her follow her head. But see where you are going. Do not go where you do not want her to follow: do not go where you fear [to have] her as your follower, lest you fall together into the pit of adultery: lest, when you do it, you teach what you do. It pains your soul if you both fall together into the pit of adultery: let it pain you if you alone fall. You are jealous, you do not want her to fall: be afraid, do not fall yourself. But do not, most chaste women, imitate your unchaste husbands. Far be it from you. Let them either live with you, or perish alone. A woman does not owe her chastity to an unchaste husband, but she owes it to God, she owes it to Christ. Let her not do it for his sake, who does not deserve it; but let her do it for Christ's sake. Let her consider her price, let her read her [marriage] tablets. Finally, let him think what he pleases who is perhaps indignant because I discuss such things: for I know that those who are wise love me for it; because not without reason is it written, Rebuke a wise man, and he will love you; rebuke a foolish man, and he will add to hating you (Prov. 9:8). He did not say, He will begin; but, he will add: because he already hated. So I know that the wise love me in this. Let those keep themselves from communion who know that I know their sins, lest they be cast out from the chancel rails. But those whose [sins] I do not know, these I summon before God. Let them too do penance, and henceforth abstain from the uncleanness of their fornications.
CAPUT VI. — 6. Poenitentes mutentur. Catechumeni imitentur bonos de Ecclesia. Poenitentibus dico: quid est quod agitis? Scitote, nihil agitis. Quid prodest quia humiliamini, si non mutamini? Catechumenis dico: exardescite voluntate ad percipiendam gratiam. Sed eligite vobis in Ecclesia Dei quos imitemini. Si
Chapter VI. — 6. Let penitents be changed. Let catechumens imitate the good in the Church. To penitents I say: what is it that you are doing? Know that you are doing nothing. What does it profit that you are humbled, if you are not changed? To catechumens I say: burn with the will to receive grace. But choose for yourselves in the Church of God those whom you may imitate. If